Tuesday, August 31, 2010

progress all around

Torie is loving preschool. She tells me about her day when we cuddle at night. She also gets a homework folder every Monday with the previous week's work. She proudly carries her folder through the house to show who ever may be there. She loves it even more when we post it on the fridge! She is really growing right now, making progress with her speech and following directions. She and I have even made a couple of groc shopping trips with out meltdowns. For most kids, that easy. For a child who gets over stimulated easily, those trips have been far between. Her tonsillectomy and anoidectomy are set for Sept 27. She will stay over night because of her heart condition. We have to make sure she is drinking enough fluids before coming home. We take no chances of her becoming dehydrated. Her next surgery has not been set yet, but I will post that when I know. I hope she is well enough to make her class trip to the pumpkin patch this fall. I would love to get some great fall pics, if I can get the day off work. Otherwise, we may just go on a weekend.

Tuesday, August 10, 2010

you gotta watch this!

http://houston.astros.mlb.com/video/play.jsp?content_id=10798761

worst boyfriend ever! well, maybe not ever, but pretty close. He totally dodged it! hmm, wonder what he did to make up for that?!? lol. i am guessing her parents are not letting him forget about this anytime soon-i sure wouldn't!

Thursday, August 5, 2010

things NOT to say

ok, I didn't make this myself. I found it on another blog, which now I cannot get back to so I can't link it. Anyway, I thought these sound so familiar that I would post them. The lady that created this had a great idea!

10 things to avoid saying to a pregnant woman:

1. Your life is never going to be the same! - They have probably figured that one out already. Don't make it sound like you are glad they are joining the fraternity of misery or that you really have always envied their freedom. Please encourage them. Tell them the fun things you do with your kids. Tell them how much you love your kids and how thankful you are for them.
2. Was this baby planned? - PERSONAL! Assume that it was, especially if you are talking to an adult woman. Just say congratulations! How do you feel? You're happy for them!
3. Are you glad it's a ________? - Again, PERSONAL! Most often individuals asking this are projecting their own feelings into the answer. If the pregnant couple wants to share their thoughts on this issue they will, otherwise believe they are happy about the baby whether it is a boy or a girl.
4. You don't look pregnant or you are huge! - Do not comment on their size! If they "don't look pregnant" they hear you saying that they just look fat. If they are "huge" that comes as no surprise to them. :-) Simply tell them they look wonderful! They are beautiful! Both are always welcome comments.
5. Are you going to ________ - Personal questions that come with strong opinions and judgments should be avoided. Are you going to breastfeed? Go back to work? Have natural childbirth? Send him/her to college? You would be amazed at the things people will ask only to continue with a litany of the way they think it should be done. There is plenty of time to think about most of those decisions.
6. Should you be eating/drinking/doing that? - Remember how anxious you were when you were expecting your first child. The first emotion for parents is guilt! LOL You are already certain you aren't doing things right long before the baby is born. Try to be encouraging and kind rather than critical.
7. Wait until I tell you __________ - DO NOT share your horror story. No bad delivery or colicky baby reports. Wait until after the baby is born so the new mom can share her story too. Otherwise you are simply adding to her anxiety!
8. Are you going to have more babies? - Whoa! Let this one get born first! It seems that there are lots of thoughts on the preferred size for families. At this moment, the idea of having one sweet cooing baby is perfect, having a dozen screaming children is not.
9. I can't believe your _______ weeks, your pregnancy is going so fast! - Who are you kidding! No matter how fast you think it is going, for a woman who is not only growing but is growing more and more uncomfortable it cannot be fast enough.
10. This is unspoken, but do not touch the bump! - Unless you have been invited to do so, please do not touch the baby bump.

I do remember a lady trying to touch my stomach when I was carring Torie. I was looking down at the desk and suddenly a hand was moving toward me! I backed away as I looked up and a lady I wasn't even friends with was standing there smiling. Really?!? Hmm. um NO.